March 7, 2012

Health Insurance

Universal health care in the US has been a major political topic the past couple years, so why shouldn’t I bring it up?

Most people know I have a condition called endometriosis. I will not go into major detail on what it is, but for this post you need to understand that endometriosis can result in infertility or other major health complications. Needless to say, if you want kids and you have endometriosis, you will go through anything to have that multi-thousand dollar surgery.

I have had one surgery already, which helped for a short while. Most women with endometriosis have as many as five of the same surgeries I had a few years ago. I am due for another. An endometriosis specialist recently developed a more efficient surgery and is becoming well-recognized for it. This surgery supposedly can halt, or dare I say cure, endometriosis. I was scheduled to have surgery last December, before I was rescheduled due to a personal conflict with the surgeon. I rescheduled my operation for June and defaulted on insurance payments.

No, I am not poor (or rich). I am a middle class white woman. My insurance costs (before I failed to pay for too long) were nearly three times the cost of any “healthy” persons. Because of this, I did not have my surgery in June and rescheduled for August, with the hopes of finding someone that will give me insurance.

The search for affordable (not cheap) insurance has been absolutely impossible. I attend a university in California and my own school will not give me insurance. The best offer I have found was to pay an astronomical premium for 6 months on time with no treatment on my condition, and then my rates will drop. My mother has been doing everything in her power to find insurance for me, however we are both close to giving up.

In order to slow the growth of my endometriosis, I have been taking an endless amount of birth control. I don’t remember what it is like to have a natural balance of hormones in my system. Artificial hormones have been pumping through my system since middle school. As much as I would like to stop taking birth control, I cannot because I cannot get treatment for an extremely common disease.

About a year ago, I felt ambitious and stubborn and enrolled in a dance class that was far above my skill level. Trust me this is related. I had a great time and learned a lot, however because I was so under skilled, I tore my meniscus in my left knee. I ignored it and began to favor that leg, and now my right knee has the same problem. Once again, the only solution for a torn or damaged meniscus is surgery that I cannot afford. And so, here I am with a $17 dollar knee brace on my left knee hobbling around a university that has been dubbed “Hills and Stairs University.” My knees are getting worse and I cannot do anything about it.

Yes, I know, I’m whining about how hard my life is when others have it worse. But, if no one complains, how can anything improve? And if we all go my this “there are children starving in Africa” attitude, we will never address the hunger that is happening in the neighboring town. Other countries have their problems, some much worse than others, however that is not an excuse to not fix the problems that we see in our backyard. Who sits on their front porch and says, “Well, I’m not going to mow my lawn today, because he hasn’t for a week.” I would hope no one.

I sure as hell don’t. I have a tattoo on my ankle that reminds me everyday to “be the change I wish to see in the world.” And so here it is. Maybe I’ll write the Senate, or to Santorum, or Obama. Maybe I’ll just write on here and hope someone stumbles upon it. Or maybe I’ll do something else, I don’t know. All I know is I am sick (literally) of not living my days to their fullest because of someone else. And I’m tired of waiting for someone else to do something about it.

Wish me luck.

EmilyTreat

January 14, 2012

It’s Official

I was accompanying Bass Guy on his chores around town today and could you guess what he tells me?

So, I read your blog.”

Yes, I told Bass Guy about this blog. He hasn’t read any of the locked posts, but he said it was a cute blog and that he enjoyed it. And for that, I am grateful.

Maybe one day he will get to read the whole thing.

EmilyTreat

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December 21, 2011

What Exactly is it that Makes My Relationship so Great?

As you may have noticed, I have incorporated pages in my blog now, and one of those pages is titled “love life.” I’m sure you can guess what it was about.
While I was writing about how great my relationship is with Bass Guy, I decided to write a post about what makes relationships work. So here it is:

1. Communication. This is seriously the most important component of a relationship. You cannot have a relationship without communication. Yes, I know, what an obvious statement, but for some reason no one seems to get it. Except of course those who have long standing relationships. Let me put it this way, how is your significant other supposed to give you everything you want if he doesn’t know what you want? I have a friend who recently had her heart torn to bits. I remember a couple late night chats that involved conversations like these:

“Should I be worried he never texts me during the day?”
“Well, do you text him?”
“No, the guy should always text first.”
“Well maybe he thinks you don’t like to text. Have you told him you would like to text him during the day?”
“No, he should already know.”

Now before I make someone out there upset, her boyfriend was out of line and majorly at fault. It was not only her fault for the breakup.
It may seem obvious what went wrong, but so many people do it! My friend is in a crowd of many brainwashed girls who think that the perfect guy will just “know.” My friend is not to be blamed, but instead Cosmopolitan and chick flicks and Disney are to blame. However, that is another discussion altogether.

2. Touching. This is probably very bizarre hearing from me because my closest friends know I am not touchy-feely. However, physical contact between partners is of the utmost importance. If you don’t hold their hand or show affection how can they understand that you are attracted to them? This sounds like a stretch but if you are afraid to touch them outside of the bedroom, what do you expect to happen inside the bedroom? Now, I am not capable of giving sex advise because I know nothing of the topic, but I can easily see how physical contact will enhance my intimacy in the future.
Just hold their hand or waist, or simply rest your hand on their back, whatever. Get close, get personal.

3. Make it Work. Tim Gunn’s words have never run so true. If I have learned anything valuable about relationships from Bass Guy, it is that relationships are work. You must put in an enormous amount of energy to sustain a functioning relationship. People who have been married for 30+ years (like Bass Guy’s parents) are not necessarily better matches for each other. No long time married couple doesn’t argue, it’s just that they don’t quit when the going gets tough. Same goes for long distance relationships. I you love and trust your partner then you can wait for them.

Bass Guy and I exceed at each of these simple concepts and that is why our relationship is so strong. I hope this helps anyone who may be looking for advice.

EmilyTreat

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